BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS YOUR CHILD’S FIRST TEACHER

Becoming a parent is one of the most challenging as well as rewarding job. Before you can teach your child on how to be a good kid, you need to be a good parent. Here are some tips that can be useful for you.

TIPS FOR GOOD PARENTING

  • 1. Boost Self Esteem in your child
  • 2. Compliment kids when they are good
  • 3. Set limits and be consistent with your discipline
  • 4. Make time for your kids
  • 5. Be a good role model
  • 6. Explain them why they should do things. Do not dictate
  • 7. Be flexible when things are not working out
  • 8. Show your unconditional love
WHAT TO DO WHEN
As a parent you would always want your child to have good manners, be polite and cheerful. But many a times it might not work out that way. What to do when your child is faced with problems? Here's what.

WHEN YOUR CHILD FACES FEAR

Fear is a basic emotion that is felt by all the kids. But sometimes this fear can also hamper proper learning and growth in a child. As a parent you are the first person whom a child turns to for help. If your child is facing any fear problems , here are some ways you can tackle it.

  • 1. Understand your child's fear
  • 2. Talk to your child and help him/her to find a way to get rid of the fear
  • 3. Do not ignore your child’s fears
  • 4. Do not make fun of your child’s fears in front of others or otherwise

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS SHY

There can be many reasons why your child is shy. Sometimes it can also be due to your over protective nature, - But thankfully there are ways to overcome shyness.

  • Don’t taunt them in front of others like ”don’t be a chicken”, you may be doing it to shed their shyness but it may not have the desired effect
  • Avoid over protection as it will take more time for him/her to mingle with others when you are not around
  • Help your child to mingle with other kids and people, when they see you are helping them they will feel more confident about it
  • Create a connection with teachers and caregivers because if you are not around there must be people whom you can trust and have faith in
  • Prompt kids to be brave such as ordering their own food when in a restaurant or making a call to their grandparents
  • Be a role model for them and lead from the front, because if they see you doing it they will also do it without shyness
  • It’s good to prepare in advance about a situation, like the first day in school. If you can give them an image of their school and have a mock drill, they will feel less anxious and shy

WHEN YOUR CHILD TALKS BACK

Unfortunately talking back is becoming more common problem of modern lifestyle. If your kid is showing any of these signs here are some tips on how to tackle it.

  • It is very essential to keep your composure at such times and not react immediately
  • Most of the times the real reason why your child is behaving like this can be something else altogether like a fight in school, so determine the real cause first
  • When he/she talks back, be firm and show him what’s acceptable and why its not good to talk back especially to elders
  • Many a times we mellow down while handing out punishments but it’s not good, don’t give harsh punishments, but do punish him/her so that he/she will know talking back can have consequences
  • It’s important to practice what you preach-kids learn from you, so you have to be careful that you don’t talk back to others too
  • A simple appreciation like a hug or a smile can go a long way, so when your kid handles situation politely do praise him/her

WHEN YOUR CHILD DOESN'T LISTEN

One of the most common complaints that parents have with their kids is that kids don’t listen to them. There might be various reasons whey kids behave like that. But don’t worry there are ways to overcome this problem.

  • Before they start listening to you, you have to listen to them, because only then you will realize what their problem is
  • It’s also important to be reliable. This helps kids to come to you with their problems
  • Honesty will also go a long way in establishing a strong bond with your child and he/she might listen to you more
  • It’s very easy to say things like “if you don’t eat your food ghosts will come to you at night” even though it’s for a good cause, but lying will distance you from your kids and they will not believe anything that you say
  • Children listen to parents who are very friendly with them. The reason is very simple, you bond with only those people who are friendly and don’t boss you around, it’s the same with children

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS AGGRESSIVE

Forget about children, aggression is very common even in adults too. But while adults handle the situation maturely, kids can often turn aggression to physical by hitting, biting, kicking etc. But it’s possible to curb their behaviour through these tips.

  • Setting limits can help a child to realize there are certain behaviours that are not permitted
  • You can channelize their anger elsewhere. This will help them to deal with aggression in a subtle or proper way
  • Encourage kids to have self control over their behaviour. If you tell them mature people control it calmly, there is a great possibility he/she might do the same too
  • Avoid physical punishment because it can lead them to believe that physical aggression is acceptable
  • Control your own temper and explain things logically to your child. That will teach him/her to manage his temper better

PREPARING YOUR CHILD FOR SCHOOL – WHAT TO EXPECT AND HOW TO PREPARE

  • If this is the first time your child has been separated from you, it is natural for your child to be hesitant. A parent needs to be as excited and happy about school, as they want their child to be. If parents are anxious, the same anxiety gets passed on to the children as well
  • Protect their sleep time. Start early. Get your child into good sleep habits; a well rested child is usually a happier one
  • New situations are stressful and tiring for young children so don’t expect happy smiles in the first few days. Don’t exhaust your child by planning too many activities after you pick them up from school
  • Then there’s the potty problem. Going to the rest room can prove maddening for kindergarten kids. Acquaint your child with using the bathroom in places other than home. Do not expect the child to get potty trained
  • It generally takes a child 3-4 weeks to adjust to a new schedule. We urge parents to remember that a crying child usually settles down once the parent is out of earshot
  • Developing a parting ritual can be very helpful. The parent might tell the child he or she can have two kisses and a hug, but then they are leaving. It becomes a game that eases the transition, especially in the first 3 weeks, when saying good bye is most difficult
  • Never leave without saying goodbye. Acknowledge your child’s difficulty and express your confidence in his or her ability to handle the situation
  • A cheerful goodbye kiss, a smile and a reassuring word that you will be back after work is all you need to do. Our caring staff will take it from there. Please do not sneak out when your child is not looking Usually the child will settle down after you leave